feeling like a complete failure.

The one thing I was most worried about when I found out that I was pregnant was that `I was going to be a complete fail of a mother. I would spend many nights worrying that my unborn child has no idea what kind of life they are coming into and what kind of mother they would have. I would drill it into my head that I had to be the perfect mother and nothing less, but I was so wrong. You don't have to be the perfect mother as long as:

1. Your child is alive and well.

2. Happy

3. Fed and watered

4. Is wearing clean clothes

5. Has a clean nappy

6. And is smiling

If your child is all those things then you do not need to worry you are doing great. Often as mothers we put too much pressure on ourselves to be the perfect mother but as long as our child is alive and well nothing else matters. Who cares if your house is a mess. Who cares if you haven't taken your child out to baby groups. Who cares if your child isn't dressed today. None of that matters, all that matters is that you have done the bear necessities to keep your child alive and happy and for that you should be proud. Everyday is constantly a challenge when your a mum and we all feel like a fail sometimes because we feel we could of tidied the house better or gone out for the day but instead we didn't but thats okay because you did what needed to be done and that was making sure your child is okay. So next time you feel like a failure and you feel like your not good enough just remember your first and most important job is to keep your child alive and well and if you've done then they are doing more than enough.

The Honest Mum 

xox