5 ways to beat loneliness in motherhood!

Motherhood can be a lonely time. The world is a busy place but you feel like for you that normal everyday life has come to halt and that you are all alone. I know I feel like that 90% of the time. You begin to get into a routine with your child and you start to do the same thing day in day out with your child and it becomes very repetitive and boring. You always read about and see in films; mums strolling around with their friends in their gym kit off to Starbucks for a skinny no- coffee no- sugar no- calories latte and you envy them. You wish your life was exciting as that but the only excitement you will be getting is if there is a new programme on Cbeebies.

When you first have a baby everyone is always round but it seems the older they get the less interested people become. Alice is now nearly 10 months old and James has a full time job so for 5 days a week Alice and I are left to our own devices. Of course I am used to it just being the two of us and we are now in a good routine but I can't help but feel alone. I have friends and family around who care about us and I am grateful for that but it doesn't stop the loneliness from creeping in. It doesn't matter whether you have 1 person stood by you or a 100 motherhood is lonely and it is isolating. 

I know I am not the only one who feels like this because I have spoken to other mums and they feel the same way. No one can prepare you for motherhood and they especially can't prepare you for how isolating it can feel at times. Although you have this tiny version of you to keep you company its just not the same as having an adult conversation. I often find myself rambling away to Alice about things that she wouldn't even understand half the time. Its okay to admit that you are lonely and that you would like to be around other adults and resume to normal life, no one is going to judge you if you do. Although motherhood can be lonely it is also a rewarding job and when your kids are all grown up you will be longing for the days when it was just you and them sat at home in front of Cbeebies. So here are my 5 top tips to beat loneliness in motherhood: 

1. Attended a local baby group- Have a look online for your nearest local baby group most are situated in churches or there is a sing song at the local library. 

2. Join a FaceBook page for mums- I am apart of a few mum groups on FaceBook- one being called "Mumma bears" and the other "Teen Mummies" you can go on these groups and ask for advice and make new friends! 

3. Walking- Go for lots of walks also help as you will be surprised at the amount of people you chit chat with when out on a walk and its also good exercise for you too! 

4. Eating out- Take your little ones out for lunch to your local cafe- that way you converse with people and get a nice lunch out of it and it gives you a change of scenery from being stuck in the house! 

5. Advice lines- Another thing to do is you can contact advice lines such as breathing space where they will put you through to someone who can you have a talk with if you are feeling lonely or anxious! 

This year I am going to try and get out more with Alice and meet new people because I am sick of being stuck in a rut. There are always plenty of baby groups in the local area so if you are feeling like you are isolated then why not go out to one of your local baby groups, you'll meet other mums who I can guarentee feel the way you do!